Here are 20 “what if” questions to spark honest, fun, and deep chats together:
- What if we had to move to a new city in 30 days—where would you pick and why?
- What if one of us lost our job—how would we handle money and morale together?
- What if we won R1 000 000—what are the first three things we’d do with it?
- What if we couldn’t use our phones for an entire weekend—how would we spend it?
- What if our families wanted totally different plans for the same holiday—how would we decide?
- What if we disagreed about having kids (or when to have them)—what steps would we take to align?
- What if an elderly parent needed to live with us—what boundaries and roles would we set?
- What if one of us got a dream job in another country—would we do long-distance, and for how long?
- What if we started a small business together—what would it be and who does what?
- What if one of us went through a big shift in beliefs or values—how would we navigate that?
- What if one of us faced a serious health issue—what does support look like day to day?
- What if we had 24 hours to plan a surprise date for each other—what would you plan for me?
- What if we realised we argue about money—what budgeting system would we try first?
- What if our best friends didn’t get along with the other partner—how would we handle it?
- What if we could time-travel to our first week together—what advice would you give us?
- What if our love languages are opposites—what small adjustments would help us both feel loved?
- What if our household chores suddenly doubled—how would we divide and conquer?
- What if we adopted a pet—what kind, and what house rules would we set?
- What if we had one totally free, responsibility-free weekend—what’s our ideal itinerary?
- What if a recurring argument popped up again—what’s our “pause and reset” signal and plan?
Here are 10 “why I love you” questions to spark sweet, specific answers:
- Why do you choose me on ordinary days—not just the special ones?
- Which little quirks of mine do you love, and why?
- Why did you first fall in love with me, and what keeps that love growing now?
- Why do you feel safe/seen when we’re together?
- Why do our differences make us better as a couple?
- Which everyday things I do make you feel most loved, and why?
- Why do you believe in our future—what do you see for us?
- What challenge we faced made you love me more, and why?
- Which of my values or habits do you admire, and why?
- Why is loving me worth the effort on hard days?